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There are many obvious and untold reasons why I love my asawa (pictured here) but, I won’t detail or discect our relationship here out of respect for her, not to mention it could land me in hot water with the further possibility of “bolo” justice being levied on me. Just kidding. But I can tell you however, that finding that special Filipina woman can be a very rewarding and fulfilling experience. While there are beautiful women in every race known to man, Filipina women are known to be some of the most beautiful women in the world and have won the hearts of men of all different nationalities from across the globe. The ethnic ancestry of a Filipina woman can result from a rich mix of Asian or half Asian, Spanish, Portuguese, Malay, Chinese and even Caucasian and Negro, and explains the diverse differences in skin complexions that range from dark brown to soft olive to light tan. The mix of Caucasian and Filipina has been known to produce some of the lightest skinned and most beautiful Asian children.
Aside from their beauty, Filipina women are generally shy. This is deeply rooted in their conservative upbringing and totally unlike western cultures where being liberal is widely accepted. Dating conservative Filipina women is not like dating western women. Courtship more accurately describes the process of dating in the Philippines where it takes much more time and effort to get to know her. Call it old fashioned if you will, but this is just one important character trait that makes the Filipina so attractive to western men looking away from liberal women for a more traditional wife. I’ll probably take some heat here from the more liberated women in western societies for describing it like this, but it is what it is.
While I have been happily married to my wife going on 27 years, and from what I know, little has changed with the customs of courting the ladies in the Philippines. Okay yes, you can go to the larger cities like Manila and Cebu and find those more liberated ladies for the one-night stands or the quickie relationships, but once you venture out into the provincial areas of the country, things can get back to basics, complete with the full set of dating rules, rather quickly. Courting a woman in the province can mean fully chaperoned dates and then sit down meetings or dinner with the parents, aunts and uncles, even grandparents…and it’s all considered a normal part of the dating and approval process. Many times it will take several dates and family approval before you can be left to date alone, and then you will probably have to have her home before dark!
Just as in every other corner of the western world where you find that women may be more attracted to your wallet, your job, and your looks, the Philippines is not much different except that the numbers of women that approach man-hunting in this way are in the minority. The good, well grounded Filipina women tend not to be particularly concerned with looks as they will be more focused on personality. While money and potential security are a big plus when looking for a man, if you have the personal traits that a Filipina woman looks for, then there’s a big chance you will win her heart. Filipina women like men who are sincere and honest. Patience is also a virtue and is why it takes longer to court a Filipina woman. Patience is a good indicator of the sincerity of your intentions. There are many desirable virtues that the Filipina holds that will overshadow their western counterparts, most which can be described as or based in traditional values. Trusting, faithful, honest, sincere, kind, thoughtful, and loving, are some of the adjectives used to describe the Filipina. “Appreciative” is also an attribute that is high on the list but that trait is not reserved for the women folk alone. Filipinos in general are raised to sincerely appreciate what they have or have been given.
Dating women in the Philippines is a subject that is well documented by many, many others, so I won’t attempt to re-write the book here. Also, don’t take what I’ve presented here as totally factual. There is much truth in what I have just described here but, before you go make some immediate wild decision to quit your job and launch your search in finding a Filipina mate, there is much more to these little beauties that meets the eye. One of the first steps in knowing whether a Filipina wife will be right for you is a compete understanding of the culture in which they are raised. For example, one thing to understand is this: her family will usually always come before you. Because there are many complex character and cultural differences between westerners and Filipinos, I am going to suggest you visit other blogs and forums to gain a more complete understanding of the culture and better insight into the dating scene…the current dating scene!
For a more account of meeting women from the perspective of someone with boots on the ground – now – and being waist deep into the dating scene, I will now introduce my friend Henry. Henry arrived in the Philippines almost 8 months ago and has written much more than I could on the topic of the “current” dating scene. He provides a “real” take on some do’s and don’ts, and highlights some common misconceptions about developing relationships with Filipina women. Henry also offers up his detailed adventures on developing new relationships in general, and the expectations thereafter.
But before I send you off to some other blog, I will say thanks for visiting and I ask that you bookmark this site and please come back to visit. Also, please be kind and leave me with some comments as to how you feel about this site and it’s content. Your comments will help me to better provide information going forward that is most relevant to living in the Philippines.
Visit Henry’s “Life Beyond the Sea” for his latest article titled “So What’s The Big Deal About Filipinas? and current dating information. Good luck with finding your Filipina heart!